“Usually when people are sad, they don’t do anything. They just cry over their condition. But when they get angry, they bring about a change.”
– Malcolm X
When was the last time someone said something to get you to change your mind on a subject? Think about it and be honest. Did someone get you to change your diet, your workout plan, or your position on the candidate you were going to vote for?
When, honestly, was the last time someone else made you change your mind? Probably once upon a time, or never ago.
People do things for their own reasons and we are blind to what those reasons are. It’s far easier to see the shortcomings of others than it is to see our own.
We have to meet people where they are. And that’s the tough part. To meet someone where they are on an issue requires humility, and detachment from our stance. Ask yourself:
Do you care about your stance on the issue or do you care about the issue?
Often people care about their stance, and that leads to an argument, not a conversation.
Remember that when diplomacy fails, war is on the horizon. Are you willing to go to war for your stance?